Circumcision in women
I am a 23-year-old Muslim girl. I was circumcised in my childhood and do not have a clitoris. Can I enjoy sex after my marriage?
If only the hood of the clitoris (prepuce) is removed during circumcision, and the clitoris itself is uncut, you should not have any problem in enjoying sexual pleasure from clitoral stimulation. However, if the clitoris itself is excised, then you may not be able to derive pleasure that is experienced at the clitoris. However, it is not the end of sexual pleasance.
It is true that the clitoris provides sexual pleasure; however it is not the only place in the female genitalia that gives sexual pleasure. The Labia Minora (Inner lips), some portion of the Labia Majora (Outer lips), outer 1/3rd of the vaginal canal are also sensitive to sexual stimulation and the sexual pleasure can be experienced through these areas during normal sexual activity.
How to restore the relationship?
I am in first year college and have been madly in love with a girl my age since I was in class 8. It appeared that she loved me too. I had her phone number and rang her up in spite of her asking me not to do so. I think her parents found out about it. She refuses to talk to me and says she is not interested in me. I have pleaded with her but to no avail. Please tell me how to restore the relation. I can’t live without her.
First of all both of you are way too young. You have very correctly written ‘it appeared that she loved me’. So you are willing to re-evaluate your interpretation of her ‘way of talking’. That is good. You have also acknowledged that you went against her ‘specific wishes’ to not call her. We are sure you can understand if she is upset and angry with you. Not respecting her wishes amounts to not respecting her i.e. what you want is more important to you than what she needs. It is possible that she has been placed in an uncomfortable situation at home due to your actions as both of you are so young. If she is part of an orthodox family then the situation could be worse. We think a sincere apology is in order. Remember – Love is caring about the other more than yourself.
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