Sexual positions and conception
We got married four months ago. We are eager to have a child. Which is the ‘ideal’ position of intercourse for conception to happen? Secondly, after he ejaculates inside me how long does he have to stay inside me? Thirdly, after we have had sex, do I have to keep my legs up? How long does it take for the sperm to go inside? Fourthly, can I wash myself up after sex? Fifthly, what are the best days for having sex?
If the penis is in the vagina and ejaculation happens, then ANY position is OK for conception. He need not stay inside you for any specific duration after ejaculation for conception to take place.
You need not keep your legs up. Sperms can swim in any direction, even against gravity. You can wash yourself normally after sex. Never try to wash your vagina from inside at any time, whether you wish to conceive or even otherwise. Have sexual intercourse on alternate days from the 10th to the 22nd day of the menstrual cycle.
Give a voice to your feelings
I am 21-year-old boy. I am studying in college and quite popular among girls but I am of a somewhat shy nature. A girl knows me from the past 2-3 years and it seems is interested in me but I am hesitant to make the first move. If a girl keeps staring at you and looks around for you, to see if you are around, which I have noticed, what do I make out from that? Is she interested in me? Is she inclined for a friendship? How do you read it? I want to know if it is appropriate to go to a girl after three years of knowing her and saying I like her. Is it too late or do I still have a chance?
Well, you will never know until you ask her, will you? Don’t keep playing guessing games – She loves me, she loves me not. You may either be reading too much into her actions because that is what you want to believe, which could leave you nursing a broken heart soon.
It is never too late to give a voice to your feelings. On the other hand, she may be interested and waiting for you to express your feelings... for your first move. But if this is not so, then at least you would have known. That will leave you free to move on. As far as your chances are concerned, who can tell. In either case, you need to break the suspense for yourself by mustering up the courage to talk to her. Life comes to those who live it!
Do get on with life with or without her is all we can say.
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