Observation or misconception ?
I am 24 years old. I live in Mumbai. I have observed that women like to have multiple physical relationships rather than one committed relationship. Why is it so that women like to have physical contact with more than one man?
You have generalised all women. It is not so in the case of all women. In fact, “one man woman” describes most women. But yes, there are many exceptions, which is so in the case of men too. You will find men who are staunchly monogamous, and also men for whom polygamy is a way of life.
The difference lies in whether the woman or man is ‘heart-oriented’ or ‘body oriented’. A heart-oriented person feels the need to have a heart-connection with one partner, with whom he/she grows in love. Such a connection pre-supposes ‘sexual exclusivity’ as the heart-oriented person commits his/her self completely to growing together in one relationship.
On the other hand, the body-oriented person seeks a relationship merely for one’s own pleasure. And the thing about self-pleasure is that there is no satiation point. The more you have, the more you want!
We are all at different levels of evolution. The animal instinct or the auto-sexual urge keeps us at the self-pleasuring level. But as we grow and evolve and live our higher human instincts, we find in us the capacity to extend beyond ourselves in love for the other. That is the human instinct or hetero-sexual urge which wants to give to someone other than yourself.
We hope this sufficiently answers your query.
Lost interest in sex
My wife had an unfortunate abortion of around 4 to 6 weeks pregnancy. We were having sex and my condom slipped because of which she got pregnant. As we both were not ready for child at this time, she underwent abortion. Since then she has lost interest in any physical relation with me. Is there any cure for this problem? Are there any medicines available for females to increase sexual desire?
There are no medications to increase sexual desire in women. Your wife underwent the physical as well as psychological trauma in the process of getting pregnant when she was not ready and then getting the medical termination of pregnancy done. This has caused an apprehension in her about sex. She probably requires some more time to recover from the trauma. Have some patience! Give her some more time to come to terms with the traumatic experience that she has gone through. Be gentle and loving towards her. It will help her to recover faster and become ready for physical intimacy again.