Frequency of Sex
What is the correct and healthy frequency of sexual activity between couples?
The frequency of your sexual activity mainly depends on at which stage your relationship is currently. When a person is just falling in love, the intimacy is at its peak, and so is the excitement. You just cannot get enough of each other! That is the passionate, mad phase, which is also called as “lust and limerance”. This phase lasts for the initial few months. Then it simmers down and one moves into ‘compassionate love’. It is not as exciting but more meaningful, tender, comfortable and fulfilling. That is the way it is going to be except that there will be some flashes of the old passion occasionally.
Couples who experience differences in their desire levels require to develop good communication skills so that they both feel free to express their feelings without hesitation and fear that they will be misunderstood or misinterpreted. Also you need to be open to the sexual cues of your partner, as well as being able to indicate “not today” without it being seen as a put-down, refusal or rejection.
How can I find a partner?
I am handsome 5'4" male, wheatish complexion, good, well-mannered, sweet in nature, smart. I want to marry a girl of sweet nature. How should I find one of my choice? Should I go to parties, marriages, bars, discos? Match making sites seems to be a waste of money. Should I give an ad in newspapers where parents are involved? I want to marry a girl who loves me and I love her most where our interests are common and shared. Where do I start from?
All your socializing ideas seem okay except the bars and discos, as the ‘sweet natured’ girl you are looking for will definitely not be there. Matrimonial columns are not a bad idea, though it is important to check her credentials through some other known source.
It is important that you continue to interact in society and wait for your ‘lady love’ to walk into your life. However, a compatible life-partner cannot and should not be found in a desperate hurry. Remember – ‘It is man who is always in a hurry, but God is always on time’.
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