Coital Alignment Technique
What is the CAT position of performing intercourse? How similar or different is it from the missionary position?
The missionary position is one, which is the least likely to bring a woman to orgasm. The CAT position is a wonderful alternative to the missionary position of intercourse. In the missionary position, the clitoris stays out of the area that gets stimulated during intercourse. There is a subtle adjustment you can make during the missionary position of intercourse, that provides more direct stimulation to the clitoris, and greatly increases the chances of experiencing an orgasm. This position is called the “Coital Alignment Technique” or CAT position.
In the coital alignment technique, the male partner first assumes the normal missionary position. He takes his legs apart and flexes them in the knees to assume a position similar to that of a rider. The female partner keeps her legs together and not apart. Then he moves his body upwards about two inches so that he is in the intercourse position, also called ‘riding high’. The male partner’s pubic bone will rest on top of the female partner’s pubic bone so that the base of his penis presses on the clitoris.
The type of movements that take place with the CAT is different from the movements in the missionary position. In normal thrusting, most of the couples like to move in opposite directions. In the CAT position, both partners move together, and the actual range of movement is very small.
It is as if your genitals are locked together and the clitoris and the base of the penis rub against each other. The pelvis moves but the rest of your bodies don’t.
The use of this technique has many benefits. It will provide continuous stimulation of the clitoris during intercourse. And, since the bodies don’t move that much, one is less likely to become fatigued.
Casual sex
I am a lady with two daughters. My husband is a busy businessman. My high profile social life brings me in contact with several people and recently I got immensely attracted to a handsome man. Though he is married and has children, he has offered casual sexual encounters, whenever he visits my city. Should I go ahead? I am immensely attracted to him physically.
Casual sexual encounters are far from ‘casual’. Sex does not only involve the body, but also the mind. Intimacy is always a physical and an emotional encounter. As such, you would be creating complications in your life where none exist. Living a dual life as you suggest, could be emotionally de-stabilising and psychologically devastating.
You are probably dissatisfied with your intimate life with your busy husband, and this other man is making you feel attractive and desired.
It would be best if you sit your husband down for a serious heart to heart talk about the status of your intimate life and your emotional needs in the relationship, and possibly see a marriage counselor together to revive the passion in your marriage. It will be time well invested.
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